How to Make Friends in The
lot of people say it's difficult to make friends in The Sims 1;
even say that it's impossible. But it's easy if you understand how the
When the Hot Date
pack came out, sims acquired a wider range of possible interests, and
sims became uninterested in any conversation that wasn't about one of
their interests. Given that there are 15 possible interests, and the
average sim has five of those interests, it's very easy to find your
sim talking about things that the other sim doesn't care about.
The problem was that Maxis
forgot to go back and ADD interests to the sims that existed before Hot
came out. So people like Bob & Betty Newbie or Bella
& Mortimer Goth didn't have ANY interests, which meant they
hated Every Single Topic of conversation.
But it's easy to give those
sims interests! Just play their household for a couple of minutes and
take them to a community lot. You can take them to Old Town (if you
or Downtown (if you have Hot Date)
or Magic Town (if
you have Makin'
Magic). Taking the sims to a
automatically gives sims interests, so once you've taken them
somewhere, bring them home, save the game, and they'll now have
Of course, since there are
FIFTEEN possible interests, and your sim will only have around five
interests, it's completely possible to have no overlap between your
interests and the interests of the sim you want to make friends with.
I play every household for a
minute, so that I can look up their interests and write them down.
Then, when a sim walks by my house or I meet them on a community lot, I
can look up that sim's interests
on my list, compare them to those of the sims in my household, and have
a sim with at least two or three common interests talk to the person.
Or, if no one in my household has at least two interests in common with
the other sim, I don't bother talking with them.
Any topic the sim has seven or
more points in is an interest. Any topic they have three or fewer
points in is a topic that will make them LOSE relationship points if
your sim talks about it. If they have more than three but fewer than
seven points in an interest, they won't enjoy talking about it, but
won't lose points if you talk about it with them.
If you want to change a sim's
interests (and don't want to use a mod), you can buy magazines
downtown. Reading a magazine will give a sim a point in the topic
you're having them read about, BUT it will also take away a point from
a random interest.
When your sims are just
standing around talking, you can't change what they talk about. But if
they're doing a group activity -- eating at a table, watching TV,
playing chess, and so on -- you can click on your sim, and one of the
options will be Change Topic. If they're talking about something the
other sims aren't interested in, you can make them change the topic of
conversation to something the other sims DO like.
You can tell what the sims
are currently talking about by looking at the pictures above their
heads and comparing them to the pictures on the interests panel. A
boat, plane, or car means they're talking about Travel, whereas a shoe,
eyeglasses, or necktie means they're talking about Style, and so on. If
the other sim thinks about something with a large red X through it, it
means they hate that topic -- don't talk about that!
No sim enjoys having the same
social interaction repeated over and over again, but WHICH social
interactions a sim enjoys depend partly on their personality. Nice sims
like compliments and hugs, whereas Mean sims hate them. Playful sims
love to be tickled and to hear jokes, but Serious sims hate those
I make families of 8 sims
that exist only to be friends with my main sims, and all 8 of the sims
in these families have the following personality:
This personality ensures that
they enjoy interacting with others (Outgoing 6), that they enjoy
compliments and hugs (Nice 6) and that they like jokes and tickling
(Playful 6). The Active 7 is there to make sure they can stand up long
enough to have a long conversation, without problems with Comfort.
(Make sure you give these families a phone, so you can invite them
When I meet one of these sims
for the first time, my interactions go like this:
Talk - Talk - Entertain
(Joke) - Compliment - Tickle - Talk - Talk - Entertain (Joke) -
Compliment - Tickle - Hug
At that point, we're usually
Tickle is a great interaction
because it gives EIGHT points towards a relationship. But sims hate it
when you repeat an interaction too quickly, so you can't just
Tickle-Tickle-Tickle; you must have several other interactions between
each time you tickle.
Sims usually fend off
compliments unless you've gotten to know them a bit -- a relationship
of around 20 is good -- which is why I don't do it until after two
Talks and an Entertain.
Nice sims love hugs with
friends or people who are very close to being friends, but even nice
sims won't hug total strangers.
Community lots are your
secret weapon in the quest to make friends! When you go to a community
lot, there won't be many sims there at first, but sims will flock to
the lot after you've been there for a few minutes, and soon there
should be five or ten sims on the lot. If you have your list of which
sims have which interests, you can see which of the sims currently
present has several interests in common with yours. Seek out THAT
person and talk with them. The advantage of community lots is that
there are more sims to choose from, so there's a greater chance of
finding a sim that has at least three interests in common with yours.
And if you have Unleashed and go to Old Town, you can have every sim in
your family busily making friends at once. It's easy to go to a
community lot and come back with as many new friends as there are
people in your family.
And of course, you can play a
family that's not your main family and have THEM do the work of making
friends. This is so easy that it feels kinda like cheating to me, so I
don't usually use this tactic, but
if you don't mind the cheaty feel to it, it's certainly an easy way of
getting your friendship numbers up. :-)
Everything I've said so far
uses the normal workings of the game. If you're willing to use a mod,
though, things get even easier.
Two Mods that
help a LOT
If you're willing to use a
can use my mod The
Adjuster on every sim in town,
so as to give EVERY sim
the same interests. Child
sims have several
different possible interests than adults do, such as Toys and School.
They also have four possible interests in common with adults: Weather,
Sports, Outdoors, and Music.
So The Interest Adjuster gives any sim who clicks on it
interests in Weather, Sports, Outdoors, and Music, so that EVERY sim
will have at least four common interests. If every sim has four common
interests, making friends is a snap!
you'd prefer a different interest pattern (though I did choose this
pattern for a good reason), you can go to SomeSimThings and download
the Supersculpture that
Hedda made, which will allow you to set your sim's interest points to
10 in any topic you choose. You can do this with as many interests as
you like. Do this with every sim in the neighborhood, and making
friends becomes VERY easy. The Supersculpture (which also has
a lot of other useful
functions) is at http://www.somesimthings.com/Obj/05Obj.htm
Another useful mod
Of course, even once you've
MADE friends, you have to maintain them, because your friendships lose
points every single day. You can invite a sim over every night in order
to maintain those relationships, but that leaves little time for
raising your skills. Or you can get my mod that eliminates relationship
If you hate mods
But even if you don't want to
use mods, knowing that pre-made sims don't have interests but will
acquire some if you take them to a community lot will help. Keeping a
list of who has what interests will help. Making sims with
easy-to-befriend personalities will help. Knowing that repeating a
social interaction too quickly makes that interaction fail will help.
Put all of these together, and you really CAN make friends in The Sims
1 quite easily!
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